Our children go through many stages during their development. One of the most important and life-changing events of a child’s life is when they get out of diapers. Today we are going to discuss everything you need to know about this difficult time; knowing when your child is ready, how to help your child through the whole process and so much more. Once you have left here today, you are going to have all the tools and knowledge you need in order to help potty train your child effectively. Let us be honest, it’s not going to be the easiest thing you’ve ever done but you’ll get there and when you have the proper information, everything goes much smoother.
Knowing When The Time is Right
Children are typically ready to begin potty training when they are a right around two years of age. Ever child is different, so it’s important that you are patient during your efforts. Beginning potty training too early can prove to be a very frustrating process for both you and your child. Finding the perfect combination of training and standing back is probably the most difficult part of the process. Typically, you’ll just know; following your gut is something that is very critical during this time of your child’s development.
Signs of Physical Readiness
A child is only going to be able to be potty trained once they have control of the muscles that control their bladder as well as their bowels. Children whose muscles are just about ready for potty training will typically use the bathroom at predictable times during the day and will have dry diapers even after a few hours have passed. Motor skills go hand in hand with when a child is ready to start using the potty.
Children typically are physically capable of using the toilet before they are emotionally ready. Many children fear that they will fall in and are even scared of the ‘flush’ sound. Sit down with your child and always speak calmly when discussing the potty. You want to approach the situation with excitement and enthusiasm rather than scolding them when they go potty in their diaper by saying things like "Big girls don’t go potty in diapers. They use the toilet."
Positivity will prove to be much more effective than negativity. You don’t want to make your child feel bad about something they are incapable of mastering at this point in time. Toilet training is as much about you as it is about your child and if they aren’t ready, there’s nothing you can do to make them ready other than be patient and encourage them.
Another thing to look out for is signs that your child is starting to recognize when they are going to the bathroom. Your child may become quiet or even hide out as they are relieving themselves. If your child comes to you and says they need a diaper change, then they are definitely getting very close to being ready, at least physically.
Changing At Age 2
Around the age of 2, children start showing signs of independent behavior. This is when they enjoy saying "no" or "let me do it". Keep this in mind if you are beginning the process during this stage of your child’s development, as it is going to take quite a bit more effort in order to get potty training completed during this time. Many parents find that letting their child take the lead at this point is pretty effective. Some children have been known to practically team themselves because they want to show that they can do it. They love your praise during this time, but don’t often want your help.
Things You Should Know Before You Begin
Before you can potty train your child, both you and your child need to be prepared. Even though using the toilet is something that comes as second nature to us as adults, it is a very complicated task for a child. Not only do they have to learn what it feels like before they need to use the restroom, but then they must be able to control their muscles so they do not have an accident. From there, they must be able to get to the bathroom – effectively get their clothing out of the way, and get on the toilet seat. Using the toilet is actually much more complicated than it sounds. This is why many children are not fully potty trained until after reaching the age of three. It takes a lot of multitasking and abilities simply to be able to get on the toilet.
Boys vs. Girls
Boys have an additional step, making it take a bit longer for a young boy to be potty trained than a girl. It is a good idea to train both girls and boys to sit when they use the restroom. Training a boy to go while standing is possible, but it is going to cause a lot of messes and frustration on your child’s part. This is why so many people choose to teach a boy the same steps as a girl and later once they have that down, you can show them how to go while standing up.
How to Handle Fear of the Toilet
As we mentioned earlier, both you and your child must be ready in order for potty training to be a successful experience. If there is any fear associated with the toilet, be sure to show your child that it is not scary at all. A lot of children worry that they are going to fall in or worse – get flushed down the toilet. Explain to them the best you can that there is no way they would be able to get flushed. Have them practice flushing a few times so they can see how the toilet works. Show them how the water moves and goes down.
Letting your child flush helps them get used to the toilet if they are afraid. Even if they are not sitting on the toilet, dump what’s in their potty chair into the toilet and allow them to flush and watch the water go down. This is going to get them used to the noises and better understand the whole process.
Even before you and your child are thinking about potty training, it’s a great idea to let your children flush whenever you go potty. This is going to get them that much closer to be ready once the time is right for them. This is also the perfect time to teach them that you only flush the toilet when you go potty.
Children love to imitate and want to be just like the adults around them so the more they see you using the restroom, the more likely they are to imitating you and wanting to learn. Children naturally want to be ‘big’ and no longer ‘little’ so if you amp them up and show excitement surround potty training, they are likely to follow suit and become excited as well.
Dealing with and Avoiding Accidents
Accidents are bound to happen from time to time and you want to make sure to let your child know that they are not in trouble. Educate them about how accidents happen to everyone and that in time, it will get easier. While potty training your children, you may want to put them in clothing items that allow them easy-removal. For girls, a dress is perfect. This way, they have one less step to worry about when rushing to the bathroom.
Making Potty Training Fun
Especially if you have a child who is afraid or reluctant to learn to use the potty, it’s important o find ways to make the potty fun. Whether it means singing a potty song whenever your child goes, or having a special treat that they only get when they use the potty; praise equals results.
Begin with a Potty Chair
Some children are fine with taking on the ‘adult potty’ but if they are scared, you may want to look into purchasing a potty chair. There are those that go on top of your current toilet and those that can be set on the floor in the bathroom or your child’s bedroom for easier access. There are also potty chairs that sing when your child goes to the bathroom, which many children love.
How Long It Takes to Potty Train a Child
There is no definite answer as to just how long it is going to take for your child to be completely potty trained. It all depends on your child and when you start the training. Some children are rearing to go and can get the job done in a few short weeks, while others may be fearful and try to avoid going anywhere near the toilet. Try not to let those around you pressure you to potty train your child quickly. As hard as it is, don’t worry if your child is the last to be completely potty trained. When the time is right, it is going to happen.
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